I was a college student when I was first diagnosed with Hypothyroidism. I will never forget how my doctor told me, this condition would cause certain hormonal changes in my body, especially affecting chances of pregnancy. Depending on how my body would react to these changes, I could end up either too fertile (which is what I was hoping for, of course) or worse, it would be difficult for me to get pregnant. I just hoped for the best. Like most women, I dream of having my own children and experience that wonderful gift of motherhood.
When I got married later on, I prepared myself for the worst. During the first year of our marriage, my husband and I had the opportunity to learn more about Natural Family Planning (NFP) while attending various seminars for couples. Given my condition, initially, I felt it was irrelevant; it was merely out of curiosity that I tried to discover what is was all about. I was not exactly convinced of the need to practice such a method. However, through NFP, I learned so much about my own physical body, its natural beauty and the basic process of how it prepares to nurture life. That’s why later on, when my husband and I found out — unexpectedly — I was pregnant, I was so happy and excited to finally nurture life inside of me.
Unfortunately though, 8 weeks into my pregnancy, I had a miscarriage. At first, it was difficult for me to accept that the precious life inside of me was gone. But my husband and I never gave up hope that one day, we will finally be blessed with a child. And indeed, 2 years after, I got pregnant again and this time, gave birth to a happy, healthy baby boy.
Life is too precious to waste, as I have personally learned from this experience. What I love about NFP is, not only does it teach us to control or postpone pregnancy, but it also teaches us the perfect timing to get pregnant, especially for those like myself, who are eager to achieve pregnancy. As opposed to the use of contraceptives, the term “contraception” itself is very limiting:
“Contraception (birth control) prevents pregnancy by interfering with the normal process of ovulation, fertilization, and implantation”.
This is a definition I got from the Encyclopedia of Children’s Health. The very fact that contraceptives are defined as such is enough to discourage me from resorting to it.
With NFP also defined as “fertility awareness”, it promotes life itself by allowing us to learn to appreciate our body, be aware of our fertility cycle and physical capacity and most especially, gives us an opportunity to know what’s going on. Most of us would probably agree, what is “natural” is always the better, safer option. I, for one, truly prefer the “natural” way. What’s more, another important benefit of NFP is that it promotes mutual respect between husband and wife, strengthening their bond. It allows a husband and wife to have open communication, while discussing their goal of whether they want to achieve or postpone pregnancy. They also get to share with each other options and realities such as timing the wife’s fertile days, if they are hoping for a pregnancy and days on which to abstain for those postponing pregnancy.
Life is such a precious gift which we, women, were given the special privilege to nurture. My conviction to be pro-life is my own personal way of — though indirectly — giving life once again to my supposedly first-born child whom I lost due to a miscarriage. It is an act of love for my unborn child that he gets to live once again with every child born into this world. I believe that if every new life was made and born out of love, there should be no reason to prevent it. Let us welcome each life as a gift.